Thursday, January 04, 2007

A little tribute and a Big Thank You!

Today is my last meeting with my venting specialists. This person helped me immensely, in moving on after my divorce. Granted I was venting 9 months before I even filed for the divorce. I am sure she thought I was crazy not to file sooner, but that never came into play with her. She never suggested that once. She knew that was not an option for me at that time. Finally after asking all the right questions, and having seen all the signs that I need to see, I filed for the divorce. I remember the look on her face when I told her what I did. I don't think she ever expected me to do that, and that is OK. We worked out a lot of issues in the three years that I have had to vent. For that I am grateful and ready to move on now.

After doing some final cleaning out of things still left to go through from when I was married, I know it was not my fault and I did everything I possibly could. He actually left the marriage long before I knew there was a problem between us. But we just cannot know then what we know now. So we move on. My venting specialist is moving on as well. I have been fortunate enough to be able to go where she has moved to, but this time the distance is to great. I wish her all the best in her new pursuit of happiness. I think it is perfect timing for me right now. Things are going well for me, besides the legal issues I still have with the former spouse and hopefully those with come to a close by the end of the month for sure. I will be facilitating and divorce group at church starting this month or next for sure. I have more people in my life now, and that is not something that I cared about. I perfectly fine just being with the sprouts, but it is very nice to add more adults to my life. As much as I hate to have it all end, it is at a good time.

Thank you for all that you have done. I wish you all the best in your new adventures. I will always remember that "Yes, you are always right" no matter how annoying that was for me, it was the best for me.

THANKS!!!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Your venting specialist is glad she was there to help you sort through everything. She knew you would eventually file but it all had to be on your terms and when you were ready. Not to mention move through the emotions at your own speed. I too feel that this is a good time. You have made a lot of progress and you have found support in others and strength in yourself. Just remember I am only an email away if you need me.

maynard said...

THANK YOU!! Technology is a wonderful things these days. I wish you all the best not only in the new job but also with the new adventures as well. Thanks for all that you have taught me, and just remember I taught you that it is possible to be organized with the palm of you hand.. :)

Patty said...

What is a venting specialist, and how does one find one? Can one vent about anything, or is the topic limited to relationships/divorce? The premise sounds cool/useful/modern day, but also something I have been doing for my friends for years.

Good job Maynard on your acomplishments. Now that you have come in this direction God will use you to help others through the same battles. I was amazed at how many divorcing people came into my life after I had made peace with my divorce.

maynard said...

Venting Specialist - politically correct term for counselor. It might take awhile to find a good one, or the best one may be the first one. Yes, you can vent about anything, and I could.