I sent a quick message that asked how her vacation was. She did not get the drift of that message because she played the I am not the person you think I am roll. I stopped and talked to my ex on my lunch hour that day, and we discussed a lot of different things. The up coming holiday schedules for everyone, the sprouts events they have coming up. It was a very pleasant conversation. Then I told him what I think his wife is up to or has been up to. I got the deer in the headlights look of course. I told him that this person had contacted my sister as well and that I have never given out her ID to anyone and the only way this person would have gotten it was from his list. He claimed that he has not been chatting online for a very long time. That I believe. I told him that she has been logged into his account though because he has come up available on my list and I know it was not him because he was at work where he cannot chat online. And there is no way to get around that at his work that I do know as well. He said he will ask his wife. I told him that doesn't really matter that I do not believe a word that either one says for the most part. It was a very peaceful conversation, I did not loose my temper I laid out everything I knew and headed back to work which is all of a two mile drive.
After I got to work about 20 minutes after I had finished the conversation with the ex guess who pops online to chat. Yep, my so called friend. I knew that would happen. That is when she wanted to know what my message about the vacation met. I did not explain it. She started right in on me, saying that I have not moved on in my life and that I am jealous of the ex's wife and that I am like one of those crazy people that go around shooting people. I need to see a counsellor because I am crazy. I seem to be so much living in the past and don't move forward in my life. Blah Blah Blah.....
After bantering back an forth for a bit, I finally asked her about knowing who my sister is, without giving away that it was my sister. Here came the lie. She said that she had no idea who that person was never her of that person. I told her that was funny because that person was on her friends list. She said yes that she was, but that she just clicked ok to accept her so that she could get on with her job. This person continued to ask my sister to be friends online even after she kept declining her.
So we banter back and forth for about an hour which was about 59 minutes to long for me. Funny thing is that my "friend" gave up on the conversation she finally ended that conversation abruptly after I had said something. And she has NEVER done that. I was always the one to end the conversation, mostly because she kept pissing me off. After going back and looking at some of the archives between us. The person, never gave up on anything she kept needling and needling and needling at things, and would never give it up, until this last conversation. Interesting I think.
Anyways I have not lost any sleep over this. I am glad I decided to file for the divorce. I have so moved on in my life, and being Jealous of the ex's wife has never entered the picture at all. She has nothing to be jealous of.
I have seen the ex's wife once since this all happened. The ex and I have talked several times and all since this has happened. He has actually gone out of the way to make conversation and actually be on top of things since all of this started. Kind of strange but nice now. I had to drop the sprouts off at his house yesterday and she was there, she made an big effort to stay out of eye contact with me which I though strange, because it was her house. I stood just inside the doorway. I hate even going in and I wouldn't have except I had to sign one of the sprouts planner for school which he kept at his house for the weekend, so I had to go in to sign it. Her brother was just inside of the doorway as well, and yet she stayed out of eye sight for me, not that I was trying to see her either. She carried on a conversation with one of the sprouts. The sprout said that I was signing her planner for school and the wife said what your dad cannot do it. I wanted to say apparently not because he did not sign it last week when he had them. But I just went about my own business. The sprout said that I was signing to show that the sprout read over the holidays. The kids in class get a party if they read for so many days in a month. The wife said that was nice that I remembered to do that. It is not a memory issue. It is a parenting issue.
So there you have it. I am glad it is over. My sister and I were going to set her up but I did not want to play the game. I have played their games for to many years. That is one reason I end one of the games when I filed for a divorce. Now I ended another and hopefully the last one.
